Dr. Nathan Regier, your host, welcomes John Parr, his friend, colleague, thought partner, and sounding board for nearly 20 years. John served in the Royal Navy as an Electronic Engineer, has managed a Substance Abuse Recovery Center, has been a therapist, a corporate consultant, an executive coach, and a professional trainer. He's recognized for his work in communication skills and emotional assertiveness. He's an author of books on these topics and created the Emotional Assertiveness Model, a practical framework to express emotions and build relationships authentically.
What's in This Episode:
• How John’s childhood and experience in the Navy formed his philosophy.
• What is emotional assertiveness and why is it important?
• What’s the difference between EQ and EI?
• What gets in the way of emotional assertiveness?
• Overview of John’s book, Fore-play, Fair-play & Foul-play.
• What does emotional assertiveness look like in action?
• Overview of John’s books, trainings, and certification offerings.
Key Takeaways:
[3:01] John briefly overviews some of the foundational influences that have shaped his view of life.
[4:35] John talks about his experience managing a Substance Abuse Treatment Center.
[5:18] How did John become interested in the power of effective communication and interpersonal skills?
[7:18] What is emotional assertiveness, and why is it so important?
[9:51] How are emotional assertiveness and intelligence related?
[11:23] What gets in the way of human beings being emotionally assertive?
[14:50] John explains the meaning of fore-play, fair-play, and foul-play.
[19:10] John discusses the core of his book Fore-play, Fair-play, and Foul-play.
[22:25] Happiness is a core homeostatic emotion, and then there are three other emotions: sad, angry, and afraid.
[24:03] John provides an example of emotional assertiveness in action.
[29:26] Dr. Nate and John discuss the importance of engaging in conflict to produce results.
[30:41] John confesses he has never had negative client feedback.
[34:45] What is next for John?
Mentioned in this episode:
The Compassion Mindset
Compassionate Accountability: How Leaders Build Connection and Get Results, Nate Regier: www.amazon.com/Compassionate-Accountability-Leaders-Connection-Results/dp/1523004533
Visit Next-Element’s website at www.next-element.com/
Fore-play, Fair-Play and Foul-Play: Emotional Assertiveness, the Happiness Equation, John Parr: www.amazon.com/Fore-play-Fair-Play-Foul-Play-Emotional-Assertiveness/dp/1947635557
What’s Love Got to Do With It?: Harnessing the Power of Love in Your Relationships, John Parr: www.amazon.com/Whats-Love-Got-Harnessing-Relationships-ebook/dp/B0CGGXCFBK/
Visit www.teamemotion.com
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